For some of you fathers with less than desirable wives, a happy father’s day is going to be impossible. I pity you and will pray.
Let me be clear to avoid any unnecessary offense and to further level offense with a bit more precision, what I mean by “less than desirable” would be a wife that nags, moans and complains, is lazy, arrogant and controlling, manipulative, a cancerous gossip, un-spiritual, and a liar, etc.By “less than desirable” I mean a wife who never serves her husband rather constantly demands service. A wife who makes the father of her children feel more like he’s one of them.
If this is your wife, fathers, tomorrow every time you hear “Happy Father’s Day” it’s probably going to sting as the thoughts of what could be whiz past your miserable reality.
I probably don’t have to tell you this but you are probably in for either a veiled or unveiled lecture and/or guilt trip; temporary sympathy because your wife knows she needs to repent; or a father’s day celebration that is more like one of the kids birthday parties…
Now to be completely fair to these ladies (strictly anatomically speaking of course) they could always surprise us all and repent if your gracious Father sees fit to grant it and bestow this sweet mercy upon you and your children. I pray this Father’s day will be one to remember for that very reason! Let it be so for your sake, for her sake, and for your church’s sake.
In conclusion, if this post offends you more than the wives you personally know that emulate what I just described, something’s wrong with you. So, before you wine to me about my preferred approach, how about you do something bold and fatherly and confront the sin in your midst…
A word to the wives: Now is a perfect time to repent. Now is always the perfect time to repent. Someone else’s sin is never an excuse for yours. In other words, an imperfect husband is no excuse to shirk your responsibilities. If you wives would like someone to talk to who can help you, counsel you, and encourage you I recommend EJ, my wife. If you would like to talk couple to couple, me and my wife would be more than happy to help in any way we can.
An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones. – Proverbs 12:4
House and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the LORD. – Proverbs 19:14
It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife. – Proverbs 21:9
A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike; to restrain her is to restrain the wind or to grasp oil in one’s right hand. – Proverbs 27:15-16